Crossing cultures to find love is more common than ever, but even still, it isn’t always easy and can bring with it some obstacles not faced by couples of the same race. 2010 statistics state that 1 in 10 partners of the opposite sex are interracial. This represents 5.4 million couples or a 28% increase from 2000. The report also shows that 18% of heterosexual couples who are not married are also interracial.
Women over 40 may have the luxury of some extra experience and wisdom under their belts when it comes to matters of the heart, but if you’re looking to expand your dating horizons by dating a difference culture, then you’ll benefit from our interracial dating tips for women over 40.
Opposites May Attract, But…
You need to remember that as much as opposites may attract on a physical level or add a certain element of newness and excitement to your dating life; significant differences increase the risk of major conflict in a relationship. Think about the qualities that matter most to you in a man and why and keep those in the forefront when dating and looking for love. Different cultures, beliefs, and traditions can quickly begin to strain a relationship. Look for someone who’s on the same page as you when it comes to the things that matter most to you, because those things will keep you together and make your differences easier to embrace and celebrate.
Date Him for the Man He Is, Not His Race
Race shouldn’t matter when it comes to love, but be sure you’re dating for the right reasons. Some women choose to date men of a certain race because they find them physically attractive. Some do it because they’re drawn to aspects of his culture. While being attracted to a man you date is a must and an interest in his culture also important; the man himself should be the reason you choose him. Race should not be your first consideration when it comes to love. Is he a good man? Does he share similar interests and beliefs? Do you respect him and he you? Get to know him and date him for the man he is, regardless of his skin color.
Keep an Open Mind
An open mind is a must for dating because it opens you up for all kinds of wonderful possibilities and potentially great men. An open mind is also important when it comes to interracial dating; not having one might prevent you from finding happiness with someone because of certain cultural differences and attitudes that you may not understand. Enjoy learning more about his culture and how it is a part of him. Be willing to try new things and ask questions so that you can better understand him and be open to love.
Don’t Let the Stereotypes Sway You
We’ve all heard different stereotypes related to different races and even to interracial dating. We’ve heard that black men are well-endowed; Asian men are unusually smart; Jewish men are always rich, and the list goes on. Stereotypes and hearsay are not things you want to base your dating preferences and future relationships on. Don’t let the ridiculous stereotypes sway your choices in any way. What you hear about a race as a whole shouldn’t make you decide to date or reject anyone. Base your decisions on your experience with each person as an individual and not what you hear.
Get Ready for Some Pushback
Unfortunately, not everyone is as accepting of interracial dating as you may be and you’re bound to encounter opposition from others, including those that may be important to you. The great thing about being in your forties is that you have a good grasp on what you want and the confidence to own it. Prepare yourself for the possibility that a family member or friend may not welcome your decision to date outside your race with open arms. While you really don’t need to explain yourself to anyone or justify your choices; courtesy is important when it comes to those you love. Be respectful of them and the fact that their concerns are likely coming from a good place when you speak to them. Give them the opportunity to speak to you about their concerns, but don’t put up with being disrespected or mistreated. Sometimes listening is all it takes to smooth things over. At the end of the day though, it really is up to you who you date. If the opinions of others are impacting your dating life or how you treat the man you are dating, then perhaps you need to step back and think about what you want. If you feel you need to lie or hide who you’re dating from others, then it’s not going to work.
Remember that you’re the Different One to Him and His Family
All of the issues that we’ve touched on apply to him too. He is also dating outside of his race and too needs to be as open-minding, accepting, and understanding. If he is uncomfortable with your cultural differences and letting them come between you then you need to consider whether or not the relationship can or should go anywhere. Let him speak to you about his concerns and apprehensions and work with him to try to resolve them. The way he behaves will offer a clue as to how accepting of your differences he is. If he seems uncomfortable being seen with you in public or avoids introducing you to family and friends, then move on. You deserve to be more than someone’s secret.
To Sum It Up
Life’s too short to play games or settle for anything less than what you want and deserve when it comes to love. Embrace the possibility of loving and being loved by any man who shares your values and treats you with kindness and respect. If you can do that, all the other stuff will fall into place.
By following the interracial dating tips for women over 40 in this article you should be able to meet the culturally different man that you’ve seen or reviewed online without worrying whether you will do something that may hinder or destroy any future relationship possibilities.
Differences are to be celebrated and a willingness to expand your dating horizons and meet all kinds of men from different walks of life can be enriching, exciting, and the key to finding someone that’s perfect for you. At the end of the day, that is the goal, isn’t it?
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