After the age of 50, women seeking men will become a little more difficult than it was in your younger days. However, it is by no means an impossible feat. In fact, it is a lot easier than you think if you follow a plan that includes looking after yourself and believing you are a special lady who any man will be lucky to have.
50 plus women seeking men often times find themselves doubting their ability to initiate the attraction due to a lack of confidence. Remember you’ve lived a long and eventful life where you have taken on a lot more than most women younger than you and lived to tell about it. There is no reason why you should be having any confidence issues when it comes to finding a good man.
Don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone and try something new in order to meet new people. Meeting new friends will open doors to other ways to meet the man of your dreams that you didn’t know existed. Try dating a younger man if the opportunity presents itself. Cougar dating is nothing to be ashamed of and should be looked upon favourably after all men have been doing it for decades.
You are woman as the song goes and you are strong. You live in an era where it is not uncommon for women looking for men to take the bull by the horns and make the first move. Most men love a woman of conviction who knows who she is and isn’t afraid to stand up for what she believes in.
Never doubt who you are and what you can do. Be forthright and strong in your ability to get what you want when you want it even if it means lowering your expectations a little. If you believe in yourself and follow your heart you will find yourself attracting men who will want to be with you all the time.
Online Dating Over The Internet…
Start by using the many online dating sites out there for seniors to help you make contact with and develop a relationship with a man. There are a lot of men who are creating profiles on dating sites to help them find a partner to spend time with.
Why not take advantage of one of the greatest new tools to come along in years for the dating scene to help you find a good man. You have the luxury of only corresponding via the internet and if there is something you don’t like about the particular man you’ve been profiling than all you have to do is move on to the next one.
Online dating for women over 50 is the ideal way to avoid the embarrassing feeling of being rejected in the flesh that occurs when meeting someone for the first time without any previous knowledge of that person.
If you are turned down while chatting in an online dating site you just move onto the next guy before the word rejection even enters your mind.
There is no face to face until you are sure that you’ve found a man who fits all the criteria that you have laid out based on your needs and wants. Until then and only then, just keep profiling as many potential prospects as you can to ensure that you get what you want.
Once you have a few guys who you think may be someone you can relate to and possibly see yourself dating on a regular basis than you can set up meetings in a public place to see if their profiles were accurate or not. If not, then politely thank them for their time and move on to the next.
Things To Be Wary Of When Dating Online…
Be wary of the charmers you meet through online dating. You want the man to be sincere and honest while being confident. The charmers are usually after something other than a relationship. If something doesn’t feel right about him than dismiss him and move on to the next guy on your list. Remember, you are in control and don’t have to feel guilty about anything you do in your quest for finding a man online.
Never let men convince you of something that you don’t want or feel comfortable with over the internet or in person for that matter. He doesn’t need to know your financial situation or where you live (physically). He doesn’t need to know the names of any of your family members or other personal information.
Always keep your conversations about the potential development of a relationship and away from your personal life. Only ask questions or provide answers to issues concerning your criteria for the perfect man.
Be careful of the “woe is me” type of man as he will undoubtedly be after more than an honest and caring relationship from you. Personal life issues are things you don’t want to take on. You want a man who wants to know about you and your world and whether you will be the one he is looking for also.
If you need to hear his voice to help determine his sincerity, then use Skype, voice over ip, a phone booth or a cell phone but never use your home phone. Only after meeting face to face and dating a few times if you feel the relationship has developed the trust required can you make a competent decision on what personal information he is entitled to know about you.
Also never use your personal email address or internet service provider address to correspond with him. There are so many free alternatives (canned email addresses) out there to use like gmail, hotmail, yahoo etc. They are very easy to set up and use.
Using your canned email address on your smart phone while text flirting is a cautious and smart way to show him your personality while avoiding giving away too much personal information.
Where Else Can Mature Women Meet Men…
Women seeking men that meet or exceed their expectations and criteria for what they want in a man have more options than they think. Some of them are just around the corner from you.
If you are an avid reader or a student of the arts then you will more than likely find a book store or local theatre in your neighbourhood that will provide you with more opportunities to meet men than you could imagine. All you have to do is take action and visit them often all the while looking over the guys you see until one or two catches your eye.
Strike up a casual conversation about the book he is reading or the event you both just watched and let human nature take its course. More often than not you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the quality of men you meet at these venues.
Another great place to meet men for women over 50 is the local volunteer organization where only guys with sound values and a generous heart will be. Habitat for Humanity is one of those great places where lots of guys volunteer their time for a good cause.
Your local exercising class or yoga class is another great spot to meet like minded guys who obviously share your stay fit mindset for living life. Ask about a certain exercise or position that you think you may need help with or just to use to break the ice. Men love to be the “knight in shining armour” so use that to your advantage to initiate the interaction.
Women seeking men shouldn’t overlook the various clubs in their areas either. There are clubs for avid gardeners, bridge, cooking, outdoors people, painting on canvas, pet events, photography, wine aficionados, and the list is endless. Choose something you are passionate about and see if there is a club or organization for it nearby.
Bus tours or singles cruises can be a great way to meet some new men while you travel to a venue to watch the opera, take in the local casino or visit that beautiful place you’ve never been to before. Travelling on cruises and tours is not only a good way to meet a great guy, but also for meeting a new friend who may introduce you to the guy you’ve been looking for. Not to mention the fun and relaxation you will enjoy along the way.
To Sum It Up…
Unfortunately the ratio of women seeking men to the amount of actual men available to be found for women over 50 is one sided. This doesn’t mean that you cannot find a good man when you want to. It just means that you have to be proactive and start going to places where the odds are more in your favor.
Start by believing in yourself and your ability to take action then move on to the next step of actually looking for men. You must step outside of your comfort zone occasionally when looking for places to meet men.
Don’t be afraid to try the online dating scene as the rewards far outweigh the risks. Think of it as an open market of older men (or younger) where you are in control and can pick and choose as you please. Not happy with the results, tear up the card and move on to the next round.
The bottom line is this; you are able to do whatever you set your mind to do. There should be no limitations and nothing should embarrass or deter you from achieving your desired result. Be yourself, be honest, be caring, and be upfront about what you expect out of the relationship and it will come naturally for you.
Fear is just a word that defines an emotion. Happiness and love are also words that define emotions. You get to decide which word is going to control your outcome. Most of all, get out of the house and take action!
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