Have an amazing date with a guy who said he’d call but didn’t? Did you meet a great guy that asked for your number only to not ever hear from him again? Or are you in a relationship and constantly left waiting for him to call and always the one doing the calling? We’re going to tell you why hasnt he called you and what you can do to stop it from happening again.
You’re not the conquest his primal side craves…
Guys love the thrill of the chase and it’s not because they’re players or jerks—at least not always—but rather it’s engrained in their nature. A man’s primal urge is to chase and conquer and always has been. Chatting you up and seeing if he can get your number is just part of it for most guys; they want to have to call you and work to get you to take the next step, which is going on a date and seeing where things can go. If you make it really obvious that you’re going to be waiting for his call and make it too easy, then he’s going to lose the drive to call.
You said too much…
Whether you’ve just starting chatting at a bar or on an online dating site or have had a date or two; saying too much will put him off enough to not call you again. There’s no need to tell a guy your entire life’s story in one or two sessions, no matter how interested in it he may appear. Leave a little something for later, girls! Tell him too much and you lose the exciting air of mystery that guys thrive on when they first meet a woman. And, if you go into detail about the wrong thing, then chances are he’ll NEVER call you again. Some off-limit topics: your past relationships, your desire to get married and have babies, and anything too heavy or personal.
You acted like an ass…
Ouch, right? If you put a guy off with your behaviour by acting like a total ass then why should he call? Some examples of behavior that will stop a guy from calling a woman includes: getting drunk, talking down to him or his friends, being catty and trash-talking other women, and trying too hard to impress him. There’s nothing sexy about drinking too much and stumbling over your own Louboutin’s, and talking badly about others only makes you insecure, which is also anything but attractive to a guy.
You contacted him first…
If a guy is interested and wants to call, he will and he’ll look forward to doing so. If you call or text him first or find him on Facebook or Twitter to get in touch with him before he’s had the chance to call you, then you’re pretty much taking away his incentive. If he said he will call, then back off, relax and give him the chance to do that. Cutting him off at the past could stop him from ever calling you.
They were only being nice…
It happens! Some men take your number or say they’ll call just because they don’t want to hurt your feelings or feel it’s the polite thing to do. Chances are you gave off some sort of vibe that made him feel like you wanted/expected him to take your number. Being led on to believe that a guy wants to call you, well, it sucks! But if he feels he has to tell you he’ll call then that could be why he doesn’t really want to call in the first place. The needy vibe is not one that’s likely to attract a man and sometimes, nice guys do this simply because they’re nice guys.
You came on too strong—literally…
What you might perceive as being a strong and confident woman could translate to cold, bossy, and full-of-herself to a guy. Confidence is sexy, but some women go overboard when it comes to trying to get across just how confident and self-assured she is. Going the extra mile to voice your strong opinions and talking too much about your accomplishments isn’t going to leave a guy intimidated by your strength and success—like many overly confident and successful women believe—but instead make him feel that you’re argumentative, overbearing, and not very feminine. There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
You slept with him too soon…
It hurts, but it could well be the reason why he didn’t call you back. Yes, some of those old dating rules and sayings are rubbish, but the one about a man not needing to buy the milk when he’s got the whole cow for free is, and always will be, true. If you sleep with him too fast then you’ve given it away and eliminated his need or want for it. And for the record; sleeping with a guy too soon can make a guy wonder how many other guys you’ve so willingly and easily given yourself to. Having a one night stand is one thing, but if you want a relationship with a guy who will want to call you back, then make him earn your love… and your body.
To sum it up…
Some guys are just out to collect numbers as a way to stroke their own egos and try to make themselves feel better or look good to their friends. These are the immature guys who are not worth any girl’s time. If you find that most guys don’t call you back or stop bothering to call when you’re supposed to be in a relationship then consider what, if any, role you’re playing in this pattern. Are you coming on too strong? Are you always calling them so they never actually need to call you? Guys want to work for your number and attention and if they’re interested, they’ll call you back. If they’re not calling, then something has put them off.
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